I’m a lover of written words. I believe words hold power. God created the world simply by speaking. We do not have the power to speak things into existence, but we are able to speak words that either tear down or lift up. (Proverbs 15:1)
Some of my kids are at the age where they have moments of insecurities. So we have begun to speak positive affirmations together. They go a little something like this:
“I am who God says I am.
He considered it good when he made me with…
(Here we insert whatever qualities are specific to that child. If they are struggling with a specific quality I make sure to put it in.)
God made me just like this, to show His glory.”
I know that’s often not the typical “parent positive affirmation” conversation we see going around social media. It is important to fix our affirmations on something or someone that is immovable. If someone treats one of my children bad or judges them unfairly, they will (hopefully) remember they were created to show God’s glory. It doesn’t matter how that person views them, because that’s not who they’re living for. If my children go through time periods of doubting their worth, I hope they remember that God delighted in making them just like they are. That they never have to strive for perfection because Jesus perfectly covered any of their shortcomings by his life, death, and resurrection.
I repeatedly tell my children that they are smart. They are strong. They are brave. I know they don’t always feel this. (I have one kid that is deathly afraid of heights just like me). I hope over time they learn to believe this. It’s not because I know their abilities will always be unfailing, but because I know they have access to the One who never will.